Why would someone be derogatory about me to Tom and expect him to agree with them?! It's not the first time one of my friends have said something opinionated about me and expected Tom to agree. He's my boyfriend, he's a decent guy "why would he agree with you, against me?". I've never been rude or derogatory about my friend' partners, as it's just not what you do. It's insulting to your 'supposed' friend and it's extremely rude to the partner, as you're insulting their choices!